Scaffolding Behavioral Expectations: Dealing with Challenging Behaviors
Let me start off by stating that I am not a guidance counselor, nor am I an expert at teenagers’ behaviors. However, I did raise two children, who are doing well in their professions and lives, so as a parent I feel like I know something about teen behavior. I have also been teaching teenagers for 15 years, so my experience encompasses interacting with students from diverse backgrounds.
So, what would I suggest to a new teacher who needs to obviously deal with teenagers’ behaviors? The key to managing challenging behaviors is establishing from day one that the teacher is the adult in charge. That is not to say that one needs to be militant. Actually, the opposite is true. Creating a classroom environment that is welcoming and safe is the greatest gift a teacher can give all students. However, the teacher can demonstrate authority by being prepared and organized and leading by example.
The key to a successful classroom for both teachers and students is a strong classroom community and classroom management.
First, let’s start with building a strong classroom community. From the first day until the last day of class, it is important to continually provide social-emotional learning and behavioral support to all students in the classroom. Playing short games like “You’re in my boat if…” or any Icebreaker/Team Building activity on a regular basis throughout the semester or school year will help build a solid community in the classroom.
However, we all know that having fun does not always mean that students will not misbehave in class. So, what might you do when this happens?
A teacher’s first and foremost responsibility is to keep the students who are in his or her care safe. Thus, determining if the behavior presents a danger to the teacher, the student, other students is the first priority in managing challenging behavior.
Deciding if a particular issue is important or not to pursue is important for a teacher. Remember, the saying, “Is this the hill you want to die on?” Well, if you answer no to that question, then it is best to drop the issue or let go of your thinking. For example, when I first started teaching I thought students should bring their own writing utensils. I was going to enforce that until a veteran teacher said to me, “And if you don’t give the student a pencil, what will happen?” I thought about this and said, “Probably nothing.” The wise teacher asked me if I would fail a student for bringing a pencil, and of course, my answer was no. So, in the end, I dropped my militant attitude, took a mug, filled it with pens and pencils that I picked up at hotels and conferences, and put it at the front of the classroom. Negative behaviors avoided!
But what if a student is having an emotional meltdown? Some teachers have a “peace corner” in the classroom or outside the classroom door. These areas allow for students to work through their emotions and feelings in a positive way before rejoining the group.
However, remember that safety is key. So, if a student is enraged and is looking like the other students are prey, taking a low and slow stance may help de-escalate the situation. Speak slowly and softly, as if approaching a Bangle Tiger. Keep a neutral facial expression and crouch to eye level to calm the student.
Discussion and consequences can be saved for later. Calming students, so they can start accessing their rational brain, is the most important.
